[amyfk]

Hi,

I hope everyone is well.
I am sure many of you know that I have wanted to adopt again after bringing home my child Joanna(with the exception of today when she was a brat). My husband for the longest time was not on board.
About two months ago my husband and I were talking on the phone while he was at work. He said to me, "maybe it would be a good idea for Joanna to have a sibling." I almost fell off my couch because I couldnt believe it was coming from my dh's mouth!
After that I started looking around at various programs and agencies and I was keeping hopeful. I told my husband that as long as we can wing it financially I am really for adding on. My dh has had a problem lately. He developed a hernia, and is going for surgery for it at the end of the week. So now he's not a happy camper and for the last month he was walking around in pain.
Tonight after a trying day for both of us(he works Sats.) and Joanna threw several fits at the mall for me, at dinner my husband said that most likely the second adoption is off again.
What do I say to him? At least if he never told me he was thinking of a sibling It wouldnt have entered my mind. Now that he brought it up and again changed his mind, I feel kind of sad and regretful. I almost feel like a have a second "phantom" child out there somewhere. Does that sort of make sense?
Thanks,
Amy K, NJ