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I couldn't agree more with Shy bear. We did infant adoption, and after several years, went with foster system adoption. We didn't disrupt birth order; but felt we didn't want to have a newborn again at that time. (The oldest child we adopted had just turned 7yrs old. The youngest had just turned 3yrs old.)
While I personally know of some older child adoptions that have succeeded, I can guarantee that most have not been a 'walk in the park'; and, I have to be honest in saying there are many that do not succeed---even if they seemed pretty good for many months before adoption was finalized.
Please be very, very careful, and sure to educate yourselves much more than the classes offered by your local DCF. I would highly recommend you attend/join a support group for people who've adopted older children (and by older, I mean more than 18months-2yrs) well before you actually adopt an older child. 'Those who know' can offer support and education you'll never see/hear from any class.
After dealing with older child adoptions for many years, we decided we'd never do it again. We went back to private infant adoption.
Sincerely,
Linny
Last edited by Linny : 08-23-2008 at 09:18 PM.
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