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our story is really cool....
when i called aparents 5 weeks ago, they booked plane ticket the next night for the whole family + E's boyfriend to come to sf for 5 days. at the end of reunion, they said i was a full fledged member of the family and welcome at their home for holidays, etc...we all really enjoy each other. aparents are old enough to be my parents, 21 and 28 years older than me, and i think they are hoping E will see me as a "big sis". amom even said she wanted to be grandma to my future children (i want to get pregnant this year, knock on wood) as she knows i have zero relationship with my own parents.
i will be going camping in their state with all of them for 6 days next week, and will stay at their house for 1 night as well. so it will be easy to let amom know she is equally welcome in my home.
the more i think about it (thanks for the great feedback) the more i feel i will just present it to amom as an exciting opportunity for us all to be together. this is the truth, at least for me. and the more time she has to see no one can ever take away her bond with E i am sure the better she will feel. and i hope she really realizes that i not only love and respect her, but truly like her and want her to be part of my "extended" family.
i really care about her and her feelings and it's why i worry so much about how all this will feel to her. i just want to be supportive to her while at the same time feel free to develop a relationship with my bdaughter...
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