[kakuehl]

Have you considered inviting her amom to come stay with you when DD is moving? I don't know if you are comfortable, but it would definitely convey that you expect her to be involved and aren't trying to take her place.

D's amom has always been pleasant but it's taken a couple of years for her to become comfortable with the idea tha I'm in D's life. Recently, we finally talked a little bit of what it was like when they got the call about D. It felt so good to have her tell me the story!