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Good question. I don't know of any books from the father's perspective. But I can tell you a little about our experience.
I feel very fortunate because DH is the one that wanted to adopt first, then approached me with the idea. IMO, most men don't fret over the little things that tend to be important to us. He didn't pay attention to the clothes I was buying or the toys I was getting. But when we adopted her, he appreciated it.
For him, it was the "here and now" that effected him more. The closer we got to adoption day, and the more he prepared things like the crib, the more anxious he became (after referral and before traveling). The night before we received her, he was the most anxious and wrote her a letter on our blog that was so precious. The day we adopted her, he wanted time to watch her on the bed, playing. He wanted to see what she could do, and expressed pride in her little accomplishments. He wanted to expand her knowledge and abilities. But before we got the referral he was much more distant than I was, even though he was the one that initiated the idea of adoption.
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Karen
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11/25/04 Decision to adopt our first daughter
03/14/05 LID for our first daughter
01/29/06 Referral for our first daughter
(total time from LID to referral-10.5 months)
03/20/06 Our first daughter in our arms
12/12/06 Decision to adopt again
04/14/07 LID for our second daughter
04/14/08 ONE year waiting
09/1/08 Re-submitted paperwork before it expired
04/14/09 TWO years waiting
04/27/09 Out of review room 
06/14/09 Fingerprinted again, before they expired
Still waiting...
How long is forever? -381 LIDs till our referral- That's how long forever is!
We've been waiting 31 months since our Log-In-Date with China
Last edited by KarenInCa : 08-23-2008 at 01:31 PM.
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