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I believe it is a little of both holding yourself back just in case something goes wrong with the adoption and alot of second time mom. My first I was like you described. I was in constant panic mode a terrified that he would suddenly stop breathing or he was so fragile that no one but me could handle him.
I learned by the second one that he wouldn't break and I was alot more calm. The bonding was different too and these both were bios. the first was an instant OMG bond and teh second was a gradual one like OK this little person depends on me, I must do that and that. The fear wasn't there with the second one. He wasn't going to turn blue and stop breathing if I took 2 extra seconds to get his feeding.
I think in your case once you know for sure that all is clear with the adoption your bonding will be alot more relaxed and natural.
Right now just enjoy your little bndle as much as you can. I also enjoyed my second baby alot more because I wasn't constantly afraid.
EZ
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