[AdoptInMe]

This post really caught my attention, because we adopted Katie a year ago, and everything you mentioned feeling with your bio child, I have felt with her. I was ga ga over her, and still am. I felt an instant bond with her. I have flashes of fear for her as she grows. I have been a nanny for 20 years, helping raise many kids, so I've never had a big issue with babies crying, and that still holds true for Katie. I am in agony, if I know she is in pain, but if it's just communication, I don't get upset. I think that is a first-time parent thing.

We are now considering trying IVF, so I am scared about whether I would feel differently about a biological child. I can't imagine that I would, because I'm already wondering whether any child can live up to my "perrfect" baby girl. But, I'm almost afraid to go this route. I am so happy with the adoption that I wonder how things will be different with a bio child. Katie is adopted, I almost feel that all my children should be. Then I remind myself that that's crazy. They will all be my children, regardless of how they enter our family, and I will love them all endlessly.