[quote=Rylee45]Katie52, I totally understand what you're saying and it makes sense.
As for the last comment about my daughter's adoptive mom being a psyco, YUP 100% PSYSCO!!!!!!! lol ---------------------------
I AM REALLY SORRY ABOUT THAT. IT MUST SUCK.==================================
I've really had a hard time with not judging all adoptive parents as being like her until I came here. Coming here has helped me understand some things and feelings and also realize things have changed. ----------------------------------------------------------
Understandable. And it is good that you stumbled on this place.
Our first experience with bmom was unfortunately like your with amoms.
Our sons bmom had 7 kids that I know of. She never parented any of them. She gave the 5 boys up for adoption immediately as each was born, because in her words, " Boys are too much freakin trouble." Her first girl died of unknown causes, and it was pronounced SIDs, but because she had not been home when the child died, alone in her crib, they took her next baby, another girl, and placed her with the grandmother.
She had a miccarriage, then a year later, got pregnant again. The day she went to the clinic, and had an ultrasound, and saw it was a boy, she went to her neighbors and said, " Do you want to adopt my baby?"
They declined, but 5 minutes later I ran into them, they were friends of mine. They saw my crying on the beach, and I told them I had just had another miscarriage. [ I did not know what to do, so I was praying, and asking God to show me the way. Please give me a sign. I asked. then I got up to go home and ran into my friends.]
They looked shocked, because I said to them," I dont know if we should give up on having more surgeries, and try to adopt, or what?"
They were like, WOW, our neighbor wants to find a family for her baby. She JUST told us 5 minutes ago.
SO, as you can see, the situation seemed like it was meant to be, like it was destiny for all of us.
But sadly, I did not have too positive a feeling about bmoms for awhile. lol. NOW i know that they come in all shapes, sizes and temperaments. It is a relief.
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That was my first time ever meeting a person who had adopted a child. I never thought in a million years anyone would ever NOT love me for giving my baby to them (even if I had nothing to do with the choice where she went).
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Sometimes it is easier to just decide the bmom did not care and that makes it easier for some people . =========================
Thank you all for that opportunity and for the learning I'm able to have here because of kindness and trying to understand me too.
Rylee-----------------------
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