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Been doing this for 19 years, and as you read earlier in my thread, not always right. I will bet you that your feelings are going to be different every time whether you go on to adopt or have more children. I did worry a little that I didn't go oeey gooey right off the bat when I adopted my daughter, but 19 months later I am very aware of how much I love this little one. And also how differently I do. It was the same with my second (bio) son. Also, when you are having to kind of "guard" your feelings in adoption until all is said and done, I believe that can be a major factor in how we are with our children. I think the NEWESt of the first child (and the hormones and not knowing what to expect) play into alot of how we are as parents And remember you are "educated" this time. I assure you that there is going to be a time very soon when you realize you are ooeey gooey. It may be hearing her cry from the other room because you put her in time out (lol) and your heart is breaking, but it will come.
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