[skolnyfamily]

We decided we will adopt....

I always dreamed of adopting and my husband liked the idea.

We talked a lot and my husband would like to adopt from Poland as his family is all from there.

We want to adopt a girl up to 6yo, and we are open to one sibling up to 6yo too (doesn't matter who is older, as long as at least one of them is a girl)... In the right situation we would even consider 7yo.

The reason why my husband WANTS international adoption is because he cannot live with an open adoption. Even though I showed him tons of studies and articles talking about how open adoption is good for kids, he won't do it. He says it is his limit, and it is either closed adoption or no adoption at all....

Today however I was thinking.... Adopting from Poland is going to cost us a lot of money... I will need to lose 4-6 weeks of work to travel... when there are so many kids in our country who need parents... So here come my questions:

1. Are there "health" kids on our desired age for adoption through the system (by health I mean no more than mild/moderate emotional needs, no big psychiatric issues, no FAS, no sexual abuse)?

2. Is it possible to adopt domestically without doing an open adoption?

3. Would the state refuse to work with us because my husband wants a closed adoption?

4. Do all kids who have been on foster care have RAD and ODD?

5. Could we do foster to adopt and still ask to close the adoption if ever happen?

I have just been wondering....

We do not want a baby (as we can have them) and we do plan to add a biologic baby over the next 2 years, so it is really important that the adopted child issues would not risk the other kids of the house.... So any kid who need to be the youngest of all, or the only child is a no...