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I often wonder if adoption wasn't seen as a woman going against her true nature
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I too have thought this so many times over the years. You know, I am thinking back on the ways that society prepared us for our role in womanhood. Do you remember that game...uhmmm...what was it called? The Dating Game, I think was the name of it. Where every girl tried to pick the perfect husband and we all hoped we didn't get the "loser guy". Yikes!! What a horrible game!! Yet we played it, my friends and I, with relished abandon; all hoping for the prince who'd take care of us. All pitying our friend who ended up with the "loser guy". And remember what a scummy schmuck he looked like! Tsk. The messages....grow up, marry a prince, stand behind him obediently, be the silent respectful power behind the throne!
I feel sorry for the guys too because how does one live up to the expectations of being a prince when really a person is only human?
And forever behind all of that; the "white picket fence". We'd spend hours me and my friends talking about what kind of home we'd have and what our husbands would do for a living and what our children's names would be.
Sigh....set up from the get go I think.
I am hoping it is different for my youngest but since I try not to eavesdrop on her conversations with her friends I guess I really don't know. I will just have to hope things have changed.
As I said to someone the other day, "at least my daughter doesn't have to suffer through a Home-Economics class".
Remember those! Yuch!
[quote]But instead we are punished for not doing what women are "supposed to do" in keeping and raising our babies. These attitudes are just infuriating to me.[quote]
Yes. And for those who haven't walked a mile in our shoes, sometimes I'd like to have them sit inside my heart and mind for just a moment and see what it has been for us. And I don't mean that in a self-pitying fashion. It's just that I think it would help people to see that we love our children if they could be in our position for just one moment.
The Sword of Damocles.
Hugs to ya Peachy! You're awesome!
Janey
God forbid you ever had to walk a mile in her shoes
Then you really might know what it's like to have to choose.
Everclear