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Riley,
I can see why you would want to know about this. I never really thought of it in those exact terms, "wanting to prove something to bmom" I mean.
The closest to that might be when we put together pictures to send , I DO find myself looking critically at each shot, not wanting to send one showing a dirty dishes in the messy sink, or with one of the kids looking unhappy. I remember once being mad at my husband because he sent the entire DISNEYLAND Birthday roll we had shot ,to the bfamily. There were some 'funny' shots of both the kids crying at Disneyland because they were sooooooooo tired and sugared out. It was the end of the long day and they were both crying cuz they wanted to stay longer, but they were both on overload, and had chocolate ice cream on their shirts and faces, with their mickey hats on, and were clearly in need of a long nap.
Anyway, we got in an argument about him including those shots in the package to the bfamily, and he was like, whats the big deal?
"They were funny, the kids will laugh when they are older. "
I was overly sensitive about it, and I did really worry that it left a bad impression somehow. Looking back I see I was wrong to be so uptight about it.
But the point I REALLY want to make is,[ and maybe it is because we were in the delivery room with both kids, so maybe that has something to do with it, IDK, ]but
we really never think about the fact they are adopted,
in the day to day , minute by minute , situation. When we are raising them, making decisions about how to parent them, teaching them, 'punishing them, praising them, loving them, worrying about them, it is never about BIO or ADOPTED. It is just about life and making decisions.
Now there ARE decisions that have to do with adoption, and then it comes up. Like how to do the FAMILY TREE PROJECT in 2nd grade. lol
Your daughters amom sounds like a real psycho. Please do not judge all aparents like her. lol
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