Hello,
I received the following in an email from one of the adoption advertising places we are using. We sent them 4 copies of our portfolio after a few exchanges with their staff. I've also read their paperwork and don't recall anything about this:
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As you know most Hispanic culture is Catholic. As with any Jewish family we require you reveal your religion in your profile even through a subtle photo of comments about hannaukah. A few years ago we had a real ugly scene at a hospital when a mom found out the family was Jewish and would not get Santa and Christmas which are manys fondest memories. The birth mom felt really deceived and family was heartbroken when she would not place with them. Does your profile make this disclosure?
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I responded that this information is in our homestudy and that we had an adoption professional approve our book before we had it printed. I asked what we could do now. She came back to me with this:
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I’d like you to replace whatever number of books we have left that maybe includes a photo in front of a menorah and references celebrating hannakuh or something. Trust me if this blew up and you lost thousands in money already spent, you’d be sorry. Yes, more moms won’t pick you but the right one will eventually and full disclosure is better on the front end.
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OK, maybe I'm reading into this, but I resent the implication that we are deliberately hiding our religion in order to get a baby faster. We aren't. We presented ourselves as honestly and "heartfelt-fully" as we could. We don't have many "holiday" pictures, at least not ones that might be obvious to a gentile. And they are not among our best pictures, so we didn't include them. It really didn't occur to us that we should explicitly say "anachnu yehudim," especially since it's in our homestudy and easily accessible to anyone who's interested. As you know, those books ain't cheap, and we just received a large order after sending them our remaining copies.
What do you guys think of this?
How can I respond in a professional and respectful way?
Thanks,