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Missy, that cracked me up. My mom used to say all of our "bad" qualities were from my dad!
I will be honest....DD has been a challenge lately and DH and I discuss that she has this little "streak" that we totally have observed in her older birth sister. It's like they both put on this impish face and BAM! At the same time, DD is such a sweetie pie as is her older birth sister that I see that as well. I also can say that this "streak" comes out when she is overtired....which I blame on our "bad" parenting (on that day!).
There is soooo much "controversy" about nature vs. nurture that I think there is very little ever considered about how "individual" each person is. I have three siblings and we all are markedly different (though similar in looks and some mannerisms) and we are all bio related and raised together, you know? I think when there is this nature vs. nurture thing, adoptees tend to get thrown in the middle of it, and that's sad.
I can say that I have seen birth mothers meeting their children in reunion and saying that all of the "bad" things are a result of parenting. Of course, if things are good, you read only how much alike they are. (I see the same thing with a parents too, failing to recognize some genetic stuff, taking credit for "good" stuff). Human nature, I guess, but it's so much more complicated than that, I think.
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