[Rylee45]

I appreciated the comments on the other thread I posted.

I have another question about how adoptive parents feel about something.

Do you ever feel when your child is acting out or for that matter turns out to be out of control/defiant or have mental problems or whatever other "negative" thing they do "has to be because of heredity"?

Or on the other hand their good points are more due to "the way they were raised" than heredity?

Occationally I've heard those things from adoptive parents. My daughter's adoptive mom told me that my daughter was a mental case due to ME and heredity and is why she had to "take control" of her life because she's incapable of being "independant".

I know that's not true because my daughter when she was living with me was given the opportunity to do things for herself. Figure her own finances out. Be an independant person and was growing so much. I had NO desire to take control of her life. She was excited to be able to do her own things and not have someone watching over her shoulder waiting for her to make a mistake.

However when she got back living around her adoptive mom she was immediately back in the same hole she's in still. The adoptive mom had her on SSI for "mental illness". (which was blamed on me).

Everything good was "her" doing because she raised her right (in her opinon) and had nothing to do with heredity.

I'm just wondering how many others out here feel that same way to any degree.

Rylee