[Withay]

First, thank you so much for caring how this little guy feels and putting his feelings first.

If there are no pictures of you and dh at the foster family home I would suggest asking if they would mind placing 3 or 4 around the house where this little guy spends his time. Place them at his eye level so he can see and touch them at will. Also, ask them to point to the pictures several times a day and refer to you as 'mommy' and 'daddy' while doing so. During phone calls have them put you on speaker phone so he can hear your voices. At the same time that he listens to the phone calls have them point to the pictures and say 'mommy' and 'daddy'.

I have done this with great success.

Good luck.