[marythemom]

Our situation was a little different. Biomom has 4 (+ one on the way) children, all with different fathers. When our son was 11 she told the police he was out of control and put him in foster care. 6 months later she did the same to our daughter and then terminated parental rights. She kept their 2 younger siblings.

She told my children that it was their fault. The children were not only resentful of their younger siblings, but also very worried about them still being in abusive situations (biomom prefers abusive men). It's been about 4 years and my children are still very angry at her.

Now that the younger children are reaching the age that my children were when she dumped them, my children are asking when they'll come live with us! Biomom only has 2 children, and they are allegedlly calmer and more compliant than my two so there is a strong liklihood that they'll never enter care - or that biofamily will take them.

All we can do is keep supporting ours and let them know that we would attempt to adopt younger sibs. We also try to visit with younger siblings whenever possible. We live in TX and the girls are in NE - but they can talk on the phone sometimes when visiting other family members (we don't allow contact with biomom - she's unable to keep from blaming my kids for her abandonment.