[manni28]

Brenda:

I'm not stereotyping ( I think?) I am basing it on what I have read here, IRL, and on other forums. Also, there are some bfamily members that DO feel entitled. Look how some( not all) of the bmoms were trying to bash me because of MY parenting choice! Like they know what’s best for my family better then me!

Like I said before:

We are the ones raising the child. You ( bmom) see the child 2-6 times a year. Even in an OA the child might not feel “comfortable” asking YOU questions as he/she would US ( his/her parents).

So after the visits and phone calls, WE have to deal with the “gritty” questions, and feelings of inadequacy, which can harm a child for life, not YOU!

What we are doing is looking out for our children and our family’s best interest.

Again, this post isn’t meant to be rude to people (amoms and bmoms) who have supported my decision.

For the record, you still haven't addressed the ramifications of bmom keeping the first born but not the second or third.And please don't tell me: "children are only confused as the parents; treat it as normal!"