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Old 08-21-2008, 04:11 AM
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Originally Posted by manni28
they want to be called ”mom/mommy/momma”;spend holidays, birthday and other special occasions with the child and have a "say" on how the child is raised.

I have yet to meet a birthmother in an open adoption who has felt entitled to any of these things unless the adoptive parents agreed to it before the adoption. There is a big difference between desiring to be with a child on his/her birthday and demanding it. I especially have not heard anyone demand a say in how the child is raised. While there are certainly birthmoms out there that overstep, it is a matter of adopting parents being clear about boundaries, not expectations on anyone's part on this forum that they aqueous.

And for the record. It is not your parenting choices I have issues with. It is your stereotyping of birthparents I have a problem with.
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