[mom2zachy]

Rylee:

I'm sorry that you had a bad experience with your adoption. It must be a very bitter pill to swallow when you make such a sacrifice for a child and then find out that things didn't go as promised. I'm sorry for your loss and pain and sorry for your daughter's, as well.

As far as feeling pressure about parenting BECAUSE I'm an amom.....no, I feel pressure because I expect myself to be a good mom and because my son deserves it. I don't parent in comparison to anyone. I co-parent with DH and we are here for our son....to help him to grow to his full potential emotionally, physically, spiritually, career-wise, to be a contributing member of society, etc. I am not parenting him to prove anything to anyone else.

There are many parents, adoptive and biological, who raise rude, spoiled kids. To say why those parents have spoiled kids is kind of an exercise in arm-chair psychology, IMO, but I guess it's certainly possible that, for those that are a-parents, they could be trying to prove something. That seems kind of sad to me....