depen6, yes you're right there are people who have biological kids who raise them and give them everything they ever want and spoil them and they are rude and people hard to be around. I wasn't saying that only adopted kids turn out like that.
I have seen a lot of adoptive parents who think they have to be better and they have to never spank their kid and they have to do all these things are they'll be deemed by the birth mother as a failure and anger will happen.
It has to be stressful on adoptive parents who feel that way. No one is perfect. Bio parents or A-parents.
You know, I would have been grateful for the adoptive parents of my daughter if they'd loved me for the fact they were able to adopt my daughter. I would have been grateful and felt honored to have given my daughter up if she'd been happy and the agency had not lied to me about that.
I would never have cared if she'd been spanked if the occasion had arised that she needed one. I'm not talking beating I'm talking a small swat on the behind. I wouldn't have been upset if they'd been stern with her or maybe kept her busy or whatever doing things.
My daughter was not loved. She was the device to make the a-mom happy because she didn't want to have anymore bio-children of her own even though she could and she'd only had boys so she just HAD to have a girl.
In the process when my daughter was a challenge to raise she shoved her in group homes, foster care, mental institutions etc and didn't give her the "happy home" I'd been promised she would be adopted in.
She also (IMO) molested my daughter as a baby. She tried nursing her even though she had no milk to do so. She didn't give birth to my daughter.
The reason I say that she molested her by doing that is her attitude about when my daughter was going to breast feed after her son was born. She (the adoptive mom) said , "You know, breast feeding is a sexual thing don't you? It's why boys have fantacies about their mothers when they get older." I don't remember the rest of what she said but that stuck in my mind.
If that is her attidude then when she was trying to breast feed my daughter she was doing it for sexual gratification and not for trying to get close to her new baby! It makes me sick to my stomach thinking about what kind of people were allowed to adopt my daughter!
Rylee