[missw005]

Today my mother sent each of the boys a card. She's done it before, and they're usually fine - I miss you, love you, etc.
But today's were a little overly guilt-filled and I'm not sure if I should let the boys have them (right now) or not.


J's (he's 9) says:

Dear J -
No matter what happens, you'll always be special to me.
I hope someday I can see you again. I miss you, Q, and your mom.
I'm sorry this sorrow has happened.
Grow strong, and always believe in yourself. You are a bright and caring person.
Love, Grandma

Q's (he's 6) says:
Q -
You are a joy to many people's lives. I know you are growing big and strong. I miss you, J, and your mom.
Maybe someday I can see you again. Until then, know that I love you.
Love, Grandma


Hmmmmm...........now that I'm rereading them as I'm typing them, maybe they're not so bad??? Perhaps they just feel so over the top as it feels to me like she's going to die or we're moving to the end of the world? (the house hasn't even sold yet)

And for crying out loud, she saw them for several days earlier this summer when they went to her group's art camp.

Ugh, I don't know.............and y'all know I don't see things clearly and rationally when it comes to my mother.

What do you think?????

I think Q will love getting a card and will put it in his room somewhere, forgetting about it in a day or two. He just loves getting mail.
But J will re-read it, over and over, and obsess about it. He struggles with this whole issue, and it seems that he's finally somewhat fine with it and doesn't obsess about it constantly. I hate to get all this started up again when he's about to head back to school, which will bring up a whole other load of issues.

They did see the cards - they don't know who they're from - when they got the mail, they got all excited thinking they'd been invited to a birthday party.......(sigh)

I wouldn't throw away the cards, just maybe wait until they're older? Or understand the situation more? Ugh, I just don't know.

I'm open to all comments/suggestions.

Thanks,

Sandy