[kakuehl]

Liliana, please try to remember that you are not the same person who reliquished your child. It's so easy for us to look back and think/say I should have done a,b, or c instead of x, y,or z. I hope that most of us have grown in maturity and wisdom over the years. I know that I would make many different decisions if I could go back. I can't of course. I can only deal with the outcome of those decisions.

Other people will always judge us. Some people will admire us for the decision we made; others will judge and condemn us. Try to remember, that's their problem (in both instances). All we can do is come to terms with the effects of adoption on our lives. Denial eventually ends for most of us and we have to deal with the other aspects/stages of grief for what we have lost. Acceptance is always the final stage. Some of us may not get there, but that (in my opinion) is the goal for all of us. It's especially important that we learn to accept ourselves "warts and all."