[KarynB]

And maybe we (as parents of black kids) are just sick of hurting for our kids because they aren't considered as worthy as others. And sick of trying to get others to see how amazing they are, and how anyone who would pass them over because of their skin colour is missing out. Big time.

I don't think anyone on here has said that all people who don't adopt transracially are racist. But, the reality is that black kids are often passed over in favour of CC kids - and to deny that there isn't any racism associated with this preference would be pretending it doesn't exist. And, for the sake of my kids, I won't do that. I'll question it for as long as I need to - in fact I am considering writing my MA thesis on the racism behind adoption based on costs differences. Pretending it doesn't exist is a disservice to all of our kids.