I think I probably have higher expectations of MYSELF as an Aparent. I don't think that's a bad thing. Unless I feel I need to be perfect. That's not healthy and I've struggled with that.
I do have an awareness that he was "entrusted" to us so I do my best to be patient ...the loving comes naturally.
Some of it I'm thinking might have to do with many of us being older first time parents. We have more life experience and financial security sometimes. More to spoil with...
I DEFINITELY get what you are saying. But I don't think anyone would say that parenthood is easy and nobody sets out to raise a brat. I don't have any expectations because I have no idea what my one year old is capable of yet
I just want him to be happy and a productive member of society.