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DH and I never ventured into any ART treatments. Plain old Clomid and Metformin did me in...I deal with a lot of medical stuff with my auto immune disease and even though I was "Promised" by the RE (and he says, I'll promise and I never make promises) that I can get you pregnant, I had just had enough. Like others have said, Being pregnant would have been the logical route (since that's what most do!) but I really wanted to be a parent. My sister offered to surrogate for us, but again, the pregnancy, or the biology wasn't what we were longing for. We were longing to be parents. There was also the whole family dynamic that I considered and also that I think a LOT of wonderful, kind hearted women see other women they are close to struggling, and offer that surrogacy option without really understand how extreme it is, and emotional and physical commitment that it is...more even than the pregnancy (and the higher chance of multiples and all that!). So for us, we just said we were all set, we were adopting. When you talk of that freeing feeling...I totally get it. I think I cried tears of joy the day I threw out all my schedule trackers and put away the fertility monitor and testing strips and all that jazz. We wanted a sure thing!

For me, if you have found peace in your decision, stick with it. I think the longer they are frozen the less viable the embroys potentially are, but the surrogacy option isn't a do now or never either right? You could certainly adopt, and then if you have regrets, you could try that later...or if it's the "life" frozen issue, you could donate them too. Do what gives you peace, and makes your dreams come true! If you want to be done with ART (cause let's face it, if it's you, or it's her, you'll still be "going through it") then adopt. If you have it in you to go another round, go for it.