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I just wonder about that stuff.
I guess I've seen some adoptive parents who indulge their adopted child so much that they are spoiled and rude and just plain out people not to be proud of. You know? And they think it's ok the child is like that and just put up with their abuse.
Then there are those that are pushed so hard to do everything and are so worn down that they get angry about life. I know people who have natural born kids also do this.
I have an ex-daughter in law who pushes her kids to excell at everything and won't let them relax. I"m talking every sport that come up at school or community she makes them do. She expects perfection in school work. She does a lot of things to push her kids. She's doing it to prove she's a better parent than their father (who she is divorced from). She's made comments such as, "Well, their dad is an unfit parent and they need the structure in their lives and the only way to do that is to have them be involved in as much as they can be. A Good parent does that for their kids."
But I just wonder if anything that adoptive parents do with the adopted child is possibly due to feeling they have to be a "better" parent or at least look like the better parent than their birth mother could have been.
I just didn't know how the adoptive parents feel on this particular thing. I guess I was thinking they would care about the birth mother's feelings about how the child turned out (if they were ever to meet) because of the fact she gave the child up to give them a "better" life and if the child turns out like my daughter did (completely out of control and uncaring about life or people) would be devastating and cause for a lot of angry feelings. You know? And having that in the back of an adoptive parents mind would be stressful I guess. That's what I was thinking anyway.
Rylee
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