[belleinblue1978]

Originally Posted by manni28

WOW, your judgements never fail to amaze me manni. You talk about being judged, that we don't try to see things from other perspectives, and what not.

So I didn't WANT to raise me child? I'm glad you lived my situation and know what I WANTED. What I wanted was for my child to have the best life that he could. It broke my heart that I was in a place that I couldn't give him that, I wanted nothing more than to be his mom.

BTW, age has nothing to do with placing. I was 26 when I placed my son and my firstmother was 30 when she placed me. So we are lesser people because we were older huh? Since we weren't young we didn't place because we wanted a better life for our child and loved them that much? We placed them because we didn't WANT to be parents? That is what I am reading from your posts.

Belle,

As hard as it is to believe some women DON’T want to parent ( not saying you are one of them)! Some women are afraid “Mr. Right"won’t accept/love them as a “single parent”; some want to finish college and some were having an affair with a married man or the bmom was married to someone else. What is so hard to accept? Not everyone who gives birth wants to be a parent.

On another forum, there’s a bmom who, when separated from her hubby, became pregnant with another man’s child. She decided to go back to her hubby and kids, she place the child up for adoption. She now has an open adoption (visits with her bchild’s “other family”). To be realistic, I want to see how that turns out, ten years from now, when the “ gritty hard questions” are asked. But above all, I want to know how the child feels: bmom when back to her hubby and kids but placed her, and has visits!!!

manni,
See my above post. Come work at my job for fifteen minutes, I know there are plenty of parents that don't want to or can't be parents for whatever reason. Again, I'm not an idiot, although you seem to think that I am.

I just wish you would put away your sweeping generalizations and if you need to speak about people who don't want to be parents, don't make it sound like everyone that places their child....