My son had just turned 18 when he reunited with his birth mother. She lives on the East Coast and we invited her out to CA where we live. It seemed to me from the birth/first moms I'm privileged to know that one thing they really craved was knowledge about their kid, and so by inviting her here she got to know him better than she would have in a neutral location. She saw his home, his college and his high school, she ate at his favorite restaurant where he'd just celebrated his birthday, she met his best friends, saw where he grew up and where he spends his time and who he spends it with. None of that would have been possible in a neutral location. Just my opinion.
