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Originally Posted by BrockBaby
tlee...glad that you are feeling a bit better this morning. I know the feeling of getting angry about "this was how your bparents are??" YES I DO!!! I want a do-over on a regular basis. I want a new bmom. But..that's not reality. I can't change who she is. I can't change how she is. I can only change the way I respond to her. I do get angry that I didn't get a "good" bmom...that mine is mean and nasty. Such is life.
My bfather isn't proactive at all. His relatives tell me that he doesn't feel he has the right to be. That he is respectful to me and the fact that my parents don't know...I haven't talked to him in over a year. I have never met him. He moved from Florida to Ohio and never told me. Before that he was telling me that he wanted to meet me, blah blah blah....so he moves to Ohio and never even tells me. His sister told me...months after the fact. (when I called her) Sometimes it would be nice for someone else to take the initiative!!!! I guess I'll take your mood from yesterday!!! LOL
I guess what we have to remember is that it is them that is missing out. I enjoy the fact that I can come here and people "get" me....
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Brock has a good point. It is they who are missing out. I look at my life and then look at theirs, and well, I'd much rather be me, and living my life. lol Sheesh, not to be a snob, but except for this reunion stuff, my life is peaceful, fun, and I have a whole lot of people who love me....and act like it.
My Bmom's sister, my Baunt, whom I am very close too, told me not too long ago, refering to some issues in the family, we don't have to beg anyone to love us. She's exactly right. And, again, when I look at my life...I have to wonder...why they wouldn't be beating my door down to be a part of my life, because it's really a pretty fun and happy one.
If given a choice between being happy, and having peace of mind, or being miserable with chaos and tension all around, and living in fear of what others think or will do,I think I will choose happy and peace of mind, and let those who choose misery and fear stay under the porch.
Their choice and their loss....and it's a shame. My real hope is that they will see what it is like to be happy and have peace of mind by me living my life, and want that for themselves...and crawl out from under the porch because they want to...and really, I think that's all we can do.
O.K. I'm just rambling now. lol Tlee I'm glad you have come back. Hang in there. You know we are here for you.