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Old 08-20-2008, 08:58 AM
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Originally Posted by manni28

I didn't say or imply you were taking the "easy way out", but I'm not sure all bmom's aren't. Not everyone who can have a baby wants to be a parent. There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to raise your child, at least it show’s what the person can/can’t handle. However, I do think if you don’t want to raise the child, and you are raising the first one, you really don’t (imo) have a say in visits.

I truly believe in situations like mine, the aparents should decide when the child is older, if visits are good.

WOW, your judgements never fail to amaze me manni. You talk about being judged, that we don't try to see things from other perspectives, and what not.

So I didn't WANT to raise me child? I'm glad you lived my situation and know what I WANTED. What I wanted was for my child to have the best life that he could. It broke my heart that I was in a place that I couldn't give him that, I wanted nothing more than to be his mom.

BTW, age has nothing to do with placing. I was 26 when I placed my son and my firstmother was 30 when she placed me. So we are lesser people because we were older huh? Since we weren't young we didn't place because we wanted a better life for our child and loved them that much? We placed them because we didn't WANT to be parents? That is what I am reading from your posts.
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1-4-2009 Mom and I visit Kiddo despite the bad weather. He really loved the blue mittens I made him and even helped me plan my living room. Apparently Hot Wheels wallpapper is the way to go.
2-16-2009 I got a promotion, that comes with a raise. Mom and Dad are visiting and we're going to Al's for pie to celebrate.
4-27-2009 Dad surprises me with a Lady Ugly Stick (an awesome fishing rod that is pink) and a 2nd Iowa Light Artillery Battery jacket. I'm a lucky girl!
5-30-2009 Kiddo turns five. It is hard to believe he is that old already, it seems like just yesterday he was being born. I was at peace for the first time on his birthday, what a nice feeling.
6-13&14 2009 A cannon live fire in Casper WY. We got third place and I got to see Devil's Tower for the first time, it was pretty awesome.
7-4-2009 Amelia the kitten comes to live with me and Liz. Talk about jealousy, Liz will adjust though.