[Rylee45]

I don't know if this question has been asked here before (It probably has but I don't remember) but I'm wondering about Adoptive parents and their relationships with their children.

Do you think sometimes they may try harder to have a "perfect" child because they adopted the child than if they'd given birth to a child?

Sometimes I wonder if some of the ones who want to be good parents and really are good parents in the fact that they care about their child and not as a possession but as their child maybe try a bit too hard to make their child turn out "good".

I know with all of us who are birth parents believing (or at least convinced) their child will be a better person than they would have been living in our care, maybe some adoptive parents push their child so hard to do all these great and wonderful things so as to prove they are good parents that it stresses them out more.

I know it must be pretty hard on some adoptive parents because they don't want to appear to be a "failure as a parent" if their child doesn't turn out "perfect" to show the birth mother she did the "right thing" in giving her child to them. I don't know.

Any thoughts on this?

Rylee