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hi, i'm a bmom who feels the need to chime in.
i am about 1 month into reunion with my 23 yr old bdaughter, and even though the f2f we had was very wonderful, afterwords, i'm kind of lost as to where we go from here. i love her, i will always love her. she has 2 great parents whom she loves dearly and who have given her the world. in my case, everyone is supportive of the reunion and i've never kept any secrets about relinquishing my daughter.
but now....we've met. and i'm not sure what she wants from me. what i can do for her. in her situation, she doesn't need "another" mom, and my main concern is how to build a friendship without barging into her life. my strongest wish is that i knew WHAT i could do for her. i would be open to anything -- but i am so afraid that there isn't really a place for me in her life, besides the long distance friend...it's hard for me. could you all do me a favor and make a short list of what it is you wish your birth parents could give you? it would help me to have perspective -- to feel necessary to her.
i love her with all my heart and wish there was a way i could be a 2nd mom - but her amom is so great i don't think she needs this at all. besides money, i sometimes wonder if i have anything to offer her at all except information about her biological background and assurance that i relinquished her with love, and that i've loved her every day since she was born.
any ideas????
thanks
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