[kakuehl]

Liliana, I'm struck by your comment about how people judge birthmothers. (I used to laugh, btw, when I would tell someone about D and they would ask if DH knew: 1 - Why would I tell them if I hadn't told my husband; and 2 -- I would immediately picture John driving me to my parents' home while I was in labor and sick as a dog.) While it is true that some people judge bmothers harshly, those same people also often judge single mothers harshly. (They get accused of having children to "milk" the system; of being promiscuous, etc.) It's really a no win situation!