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I wanted to add something. I do have high expectations of my child. I do want her to follow the rules. I do want her to learn. She is 3 and in daycare and the first question she knows she needs to answer every day when I pick her up is if she had a good day or not. She knows what a good day is. She knows the consequences. She no longer needs to be asked the question because she knows it is coming. And she knows that if she lies to me I will find out the truth. I still do not believe that walking a fence is an appropriate method of punishment. And I agree with Brock that the teacher is missing key teaching moments when that is her only response. My child is strong willed, bull-headed and argumentative. She challenges me daily. So I have been reading a ton of parenting books and there is one thing that struck me in one of the books. It said that a child who does wrong is punished. A child who is punished feels bad A child who feels bas has low self esteem. A child with low self esteem does wrong things. See the cycle? So somehow we need to teach our children right from wrong without destroying their self esteem. I don't think walking the fence is doing that.

Samantha