Thanks to everyone of you who's taken the time to post and advise; I appreciate each idea, thought and prayer. It's raining here in Tx; started 10 minutes after I
did this>>
<< with everyone's bed comforters and I've got a case of the hum-drum-blah's.
First of all I'm posting between moments of >>
<< and
<< from my newborn. Also my twin daughters EACH acquired new Ford Focus cars yesterday from my Dad and d/h's Dad as High School Seniors 09' gifts and every 8 seconds they make up an excuse to do this >>
<< with full tanks of gas, wet roads and very little experience! I am not having a good day and without my computer I'd leave
and join the Marine's!
My brother Jason and sister-in-law Lisa picked Brandon up from the hospital at 9 a.m. My Mom is camping out there and has turned his new room in to the Sponge Bob Palace. This toddler didn't even have decent shoes before Lisa and Mom went to Target and got a pair today, and he had this horrible diaper rash that required antibiotics at the hospital. He is 15 months old with a chipped front tooth and he only has about 8-10 total. He is sooo cute and so lovable! My Mom is so wonderful and kind that she is unable to see that Jason and Lisa are not a good fit for this situation at all. IMO if Lisa were a good Granny why didn't she know before someone else took him to the hospital that things were so bad? I spoke to my parents last night about my concerns and Mom is totally against me saying anything to prevent him from being placed there. In her eyes she only sees a child being lost in the system forever if they don't take him in. She says they assured her they wouldn't drink as long as he's there; (as if ). She also has a multitude of empty promises that Lisa made regarding making sure her daughter stays away. My family can only see the NEED at this point and not the likely outcome. Their combined efforts might work temporarily but I don't see this as being an ideal solution for the long term. My d/h says "Babe, one day at a time; It's not your fight." I know Brandon is safe for now and I feel better now that the initial shock has worn off. My parents are retired and live 15 miles away from Jason and can be quite intrusive and over bearing at times. Hopefully they and the CPS worker will see what I see as time passes.
I am not in a position to take care of Brandon emotionally or physically at this time. I am parenting a newborn and I have only 3 months of FMLA time off before I open my home office and work 10+ hours a day here. I also have twins who are entering their Sr. year and I'm not at all close to Lisa and I do not want to deal with her ( them ) on this level. Also, I can not alienate my entire family with just my gut feeling to go on. I am praying that all goes well.
Thanks for your input and I will keep you updated.
Tracy