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Originally Posted by JustJennNM
I was struck by this comment...it seems very harsh. I realize in your circumstance things were different, and were/are hurt by what happened but that does not mean that those that choose adoption for their children are horrible people because they do not meet your standards of imminent death, illness or severe poverty.
But I do hope your reunion goes well for you. Best of luck!
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Just JennNM,
I know this sounds harsh, but my particular experience was negative and I do know that adoption can have a dark side. I was told a bunch of lies by the woman who took my baby and the social workers and the people from the adoption agency were just manipulative and broke all promises made to me. I donīt think the birth mother matters much in comparison with the adoption market where money comes into it.
Please know Iīm not judging anyone who chooses to give her baby up for adoption. My opinion is based solely on my experience and I know some other women who had a similar experience. I feel that the separation between the child and the birth parents is unnatural and I donīt think adopted children should have to give up their names and everything sealed, because it makes their birth parents look like breeders and nothing else.
Itīs great if some birth parents want that for the sake of anonymity, but in my case, I didnīt want to. I think that should be an agreement between the mother and the adoptive parents. Maybe the adoption process has changed. When I adopted my cousin, this was never a question, but if her mother would be alife, she would be her real mother and referred to as such.
Love,
Liliana