[sal]

The only piece of advice I have is to take care of YOU! The only way that I can deal with others not "stepping up to the plate" is to think if I would want my life without them... if the answer if "no".. then I have to accept the "terms" that come with having them in my life... maybe that means putting a protective "wall" of sorts up to prevent expectations that won't be fulfilled.. etc. Kind of looking at the glass 1/2 full instead of 1/2 empty. I find if I switch the way that I think about stuff.. the easier it is for me to deal with it. I have put some people at a long arm's distance.. (my choice) because of them being more toxic in my life than I wanted... Doesn't mean that I don't still care about them.. but I'm NOT putting myself into the fray that they cause. Sorry for my rambling... but nobody can make someone feel a certain way.. it's how we perceive things.. and how we allow ourselves to feel. I wish you luck in dealing with your bparents... don't lose sight of YOUR feelings... and take care of yourself.. sal