[Southernroots]

I hear very few positive stories from mothers who have relinquished in dealing with adoption agencies. The biggest complaints are that agencies in general seem to not be as honest as they should about the real consequences of adoption. They do seem to tell women what they want to hear....."you'll get over it"....."it will get easier," etc. "your child will understand and know that you loved them."

Many women considering adoption for their children want to be told that it will work out fine. However, there are no guarantees that will be the case. Sometimes it gets easier, sometimes it gets harder over the years. As for adoptees understanding, some will, and others will not. Adoptees sometimes grow up understanding that their birth parents love them; other times they do not.