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Steve,
First of all, Congratulations!!
Bmom lives in CA, bdad in MA, and I'm in OK. I'm single too. So, any time we meet, we travel. So I sure understand your situations. I went to CA for bmom f2f - she picked me up at the airport. Bdad came to OK for f2f - I picked him up at the airport. In CA, bmom came with her friend who found me - she was way too nervous to come by herself ... and she doesn't drive thru the city... so it was easier for her. After the airport, we went to a restaurant for late lunch/early dinner. We were the only customers in the restaurant so it was private but it was comfortable. We all talked and took pictures, etc ... it was so easy.
For bdad, I picked him up and had everything all planned ... chit chat to the hotel - drop him off - breathe - then pick him up for dinner and after 2 or 3 or more drinks, then really talk. Didn't work that way. He asked almost as soon as we were in the car - what was my big question? After I asked about the story, he talked almost an hour without stopping... never did drop him off at the hotel til after dinner, no chit chat.
Both f2f felt very much the same - the only difference was who was in charge of planning. When I went to bmom's, she planned everything and when bdad came here, I planned everything. I was glad to have public but anonymous meetings ... we did have private time but I was glad I began breathing again before they happened.
So, it is up to you ... just make plans - private time and something to do. Hope your f2f is everything you imagined.
Jill
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