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Originally Posted by blessedbybug
Sometimes it does take time for people to come around. I know in DD's family her bgparents (esp Gma) were very much opposed to us maintaining contact at is was hard because most of the time, they've been the only stable contact we've had. Well... with time, they've come to enjoy it and now that DD's older sister is in an adoptive home too (long story, won't share here) they are asking for open contact with her new family. And I am glad to know that our persistence in keeping our relationship open has prompted this. They are starting to see it as a good thing, at least a little. But they became parents through closed adoptions as well, so that's their primary view of adoption and In their opinion, "the right way for everyone". Time will tell...
You really do have an awesome Mom!!! I'm so glad she's so supportive!
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It is hard, especially for the older generation. My dad has just really struggled with this and doesn't understand why it is so important to me that Kiddo knows me. I don't talk much about my feelings about my firstmom and dad because most of them are angry. That goes for my siblings too. I don't want Kiddo to be angry at me forever, although I am sure he will be at points, and that is fine. My dad just really has the whole "it was good enough for you, it should be good enough for him."
My mom ROCKS! We're planning a visit for next month, I don't know what I would do without her!
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First mom to the amazing Kiddo and adopted adult.
1-4-2009 Mom and I visit Kiddo despite the bad weather. He really loved the blue mittens I made him and even helped me plan my living room. Apparently Hot Wheels wallpapper is the way to go.
2-16-2009 I got a promotion, that comes with a raise. Mom and Dad are visiting and we're going to Al's for pie to celebrate.
4-27-2009 Dad surprises me with a Lady Ugly Stick (an awesome fishing rod that is pink) and a 2nd Iowa Light Artillery Battery jacket. I'm a lucky girl!
5-30-2009 Kiddo turns five. It is hard to believe he is that old already, it seems like just yesterday he was being born. I was at peace for the first time on his birthday, what a nice feeling.
6-13&14 2009 A cannon live fire in Casper WY. We got third place and I got to see Devil's Tower for the first time, it was pretty awesome.
7-4-2009 Amelia the kitten comes to live with me and Liz. Talk about jealousy, Liz will adjust though.
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