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Ok - I finally have some time to type!! Dh and his dad were working on rebuilding our deck so I had to keep MIL and M entertained.....then today M had skating lessons, then a park date, then a quick shopping trip at walmart, a happy meal at mc d's ...and then a HUGE freakin temper tantrum when we got home......anyhoo - he fell asleep on his floor (big shock there, that kids was so stinkin tired)
and now I have some piece and quiet!!! lol
So, I have a 4 year old monsterman/child who joined our family through open adoption. It was a newborn domestic adoption - we live in Canada and as mentioned we used the same agency as Tara and Blessed.
We have ongoing contact with his entire maternal family. Birthmom - birthgrandma - birthaunt/uncle and 2 birthcousins (6 and 8 years old) and not as frequently the birth-great-grandma. They live about 2 hours away from us (maybe in the same city as blessed lives in?? not sure but I think maybe!!) and we have visits ...well....whenever!! We dont have a schedule or anything - we've always just let each other know when either one of us feels like making the trip.
Our visits have changed alot now that M is older.....they don't see much more of him than the back of his head. He's too busy playing with the girls - and they are just fine with that. They understand kids!! lol. They are an awesome family and have been nothing but considerate and kind towards us.
Another thing that has changed is the consistancy of our relationship....birthmom (T) was 15 when she placed M, so we had alot of periods where we wouldn't hear from her. She was just young and had different priorities. Now that she's older - we hear from her more regularly. Even at that it's not that often - she's a busy girl....but we are friends on facebook and that makes it much easier to just drop a line or whatever (and it doesn't matter what time of day when it's online!!) We don't "send" alot of pictures - I just give them to her when we see each other and she takes a ton at visits (as do I). Also we check out each other's pics on facebook so that's fun.
She is parenting a new babygirl now. She lives with her boyfriend at her mom's house - which is a duplex with her sister's family on the other side. So when we go there we get to see EVERYONE. When they come here it depends...sometimes it's just T and sometimes more of them come (depending on schedules)
Someone was talking about gifts.....well...between my mom and M's birthfamily I do not have to buy clothing for the monsterman. They keep him well clothed!! lol. We exchange presents at christmas (we buy for T, birthgrandma and his birthcousins) and they always give him birthday presents (never on time, LOL that's one thing we have in common!!). We will also now buy birthday presents for T's new baby.
I don't know what else is important at the moment.....We are waiting to adopt another but we haven't heard anything yet. Hopefully it will be as smooth as our first!!
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Leigh
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