[billysmommy]

Vogi - I lived what you talked about. My kids first mom also joked about having another baby for us. For some reason, she felt very strongly against us adopting a second child from a different first mom, and it was just "talk" because we had no intentions (at that time) of adopting again. When she did become pregnant again and asked to place the baby with us, I tried desperately to talk her out of it, to no avail. It was tough because I was desperately afraid that she might place with another family if I backed her into a corner. And quite frankly, if the baby was going to be placed somewhere, it was going to be with me (and the sibling that I had already adopted 3 years prior).
Long story short, we did adopt the child - our 4 year old daughter. And though I have never said it out loud, I have wondered if it was intentional.