[finallyamom0310]

I am just reading this thread and I felt like interjecting a small thought. We all had to fill out profile paperwork and let our agencies or private avenues know what we were willing to accept in terms of drug use, medical history, etc. Why is it that because a person voices their thoughts on a blog that they are flamed because they also specified race. The start of the adoption process is trying in of itself. We have to put our entire lives out there and make sure that we put all the right information out there. Seems to me that the match was fairly quick for this person, they didn't have much time to think, then when matched determined they just didn't feel comfortable about it. Would they be flamed for backing out because the situation started to become more open or closed than what they were comforatable with? Why is it when they back out because of race it is a problem.

We are adults and although we choose adoption as the means to expand our family isn't the whole thing after the decision is made about the child? If it is about the child, why would you adopt a child that you were not quite right for and knew it? Isn't it best for the child to be in a home where their parents can handle their lives in a manner best for the child?

Just my $.02 worth.