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Originally Posted by mdesi
Really unpopular opinion alert!!!
We are choosing to adopt as a means to the ends of building our family. Honestly, I did not sign up for this ride to make any political statements or to change the world or to change my community. I do those things through voting and my career choice. We are choosing to adopt to be parents, which by all accounts seems to involve a lot of personal growth in and of itself.
This is not meant to disparage anyone who is more higher minded about this than I am, but to point out that there is room at the adoption table for all w/o judgments.
Again, I think the woman in the blog did not think through her decisions for her own levels of openness before she made this decision. I think she heard "1-3 months and you could have a baby," and let that impact her initial decision. She should never have been presented to that expectant mother in the first place, and there was her error in all of this.
ETA: We are not adopting as a means for social justice.
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I will try to be as respectful as I can, especially because I would like to keep this conversation going that way.
I am parents to two beautiful full African American Children, we are Caucasian. I did NOT adopt my children as some social experiment nor justice. Adopting outside your race is just that. It doesn't mean you are conquering the world. I just realized that skin color mattered just about as much as hair color did to us. I also know many parents of Hispanic, Asian, etc children that also feel they didn't adopt to change the world. We too just wanted to become a family, just as you did.
I think when everyone adopts a child, wether in or out of thier race, it is because they want to create a family - no?