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Originally Posted by belleinblue1978
It can be so hard because, as you know, everyone thinks they know everything about adoption because their uncle's brother's nephew's friend's cousin adopted a baby in 1922.
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Ain't that the truth? I am constantly amazed at how many people feel like they know, even though they have no experience in a situation like ours.
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Originally Posted by belleinblue1978
My dad doesn't deal with OA at all. Our adoptions are closed, he's my dad, I don't need anyone else by golly gosh. Well, I don't really feel that way, but what can I do? He is coming around though and is thinking about seeing Kiddo sometimes soon.
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Sometimes it does take time for people to come around. I know in DD's family her bgparents (esp Gma) were very much opposed to us maintaining contact at is was hard because most of the time, they've been the only stable contact we've had. Well... with time, they've come to enjoy it and now that DD's older sister is in an adoptive home too (long story, won't share here) they are asking for open contact with her new family. And I am glad to know that our persistence in keeping our relationship open has prompted this. They are starting to see it as a good thing, at least a little. But they became parents through closed adoptions as well, so that's their primary view of adoption and In their opinion, "the right way for everyone". Time will tell...
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Originally Posted by belleinblue
I told mom today that I hadn't gotten any pictures and mom said, hmmm, time to make another call then. So have I mentioned how much I LOVE my mom? She really understands the other stressors in my life and realizes I can't deal with this one too. So for my monthly pic that I send to Kiddo it is goint to be me and youngest brother, who is here at mom and dad's with me.
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You really do have an awesome Mom!!! I'm so glad she's so supportive!