[Robbin]

I don't know about the books. I'm sure that there are, but I can't recommend any.

I would just be up front with her. Try to use the terms that you will be using, but explain them. I would also try to share some of what you have learned in your orientation and training. Especially the grief and loss process which will help her understand the different behaviors that her foster sibs will exhibit.

Explain that there are alot of kids whose parents love their kids, but they don't know how to be a good parent. Sometimes they do drugs or alcohol and don't take good care of their kids, sometimes the bios are dating someone who is mean to them, sometimes they have mental health problems, or punish their kids too much.

When the county finds out about it, they move the kids to a safe home until the parents learn how to be a good parent.

Alot of times these kids will act out because they have had a hard childhood. They don't have a mommy that feeds them good meals, or reads to them, or takes them to the doctors, etc. That makes the kids upset and they misbehave. They've never had a parent teach them the right and wrong way to act. So that is your family's job. Sometimes it will be hard and you may get angry because of the way that they act or the things that they do. Since we are born-again Christians, we tell our kids that it is easy to love those who are easy to love. The harder thing, and what we are called to do, is to love those who are NOT easy to love. We have to show Christ's love to these children, and help them learn about Jesus so that they can be His children too.

Just prepare your child that it will be fun having other siblings, but it will also be difficult.

Good Luck!