Vogi - Ah, I see what you mean now.
(It kind of makes me sad for the African American mom, too).
At any rate, the baby is better off. Parents of transracial children need to be vigilant and not stick their head in the sands about color. It's worse when people try to ignore that racism exists and don't prepare themselves for parenting the transracially adopted child.
I don't mean to sound preachy. I personally could not adopt a special needs child that would have a limited life expectancy. That would be too much for me to bear, and I'm honest about that. Some people don't agree with that, though, either.