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I understand where jenns is coming from. I hear many people talk about transracial adoption and about how they "can't" do it or what not. I do agree that many people don't adopt transracially because it will be "harder".
I would be HIGHLY offended if the baby she chose was hispanic & asian instead of the same racial makeup as her own. THAT really gets to me. BUT I do think it was ridiculous of them to accept a match, then turn around & accept another. Rude is more like it, and it wasn't fair of them to play on a bmom's emotions like that. Adoption is more to it than that, and the decisions we make effect many people. To accept a match because the baby is the same skin color as you, thus "Better" in any way tells me that they DO care about skin color, unlike what they said at the beginning of thier process. They should have said EASIER because that all it is.
So...racism? No. It saddens me, but no. Rude? Yes, if I was thier lawyer / agency I would probably drop them as clients if they did this. BUT my agency also educated us enough to realize what a big decision accepting a match will be.
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