[mdesi]

I see this whole concept as on the continuum. Some people welcome the challenge to adopt transracially, and reap a different set of rewards for their parenting. Others are just interested in building a family, and this is the first time that they had even considered transracial adoption. Some people are racists, and there is no getting around that. However, to paint all people that chose not to adopt outside of their race as racist is basing that judgement on very little evidence.

I most certainly would never say that ANY parent is LAZY. It's one of the hardest jobs anyone can ever do. I think when we try to politicize parenting choices - no matter whether it is transracial adoption, breast feeding, stay at home vs. working parents, we just do more damage to all parties than we do for enlightenment purposes.

ETA: Personally, I would not have been matched with the first baby if I even had a smidgen of a doubt that we were up to the task of transracial adoption b/c we would not be in that pool of profiles. BTW- It takes a whole lot more than an open mind to adopt transracially. I would not have matched at 8 weeks with any expectant mother, either.